Monday, June 13, 2005

A Dad's Influence

As Father's Day fast approaches...I've been reflecting upon dads and the impact they make on their daughters life. Specifically my dad...Frank.

My dad died when I was 10 years old. Unless my dad had a deathbed conversion...he was not saved...and I will not see him in heaven. I don't remember too awfully much about my dad. My memories are very few and faint. I think I can see the effect of a father on a daughter...based on the holes left behind by my dad's absence.

A daughter's self esteem and the value with which she sees in herself is rooted and established in her relationship with her father.

When a daughter knows she is loved for who and what she is, she will not seek out that love in promiscuous relationships...seeking to be affirmed by a man. She will have been affirmed by her dad and be able to have healthy relationships with men. She will be secure and know that she is loved.

She will make better choices in her relationships with men. She will have a better shot at having a good, loving and health marriage.

Last and most important...a father influences how a child will view God. This is not limited solely to daughters but also impacts sons.

God is viewed as our Heavenly Father. If our view of our earthly father is negative, unloving or will impact how we view God the Father.

Fathers...God has called you to an all important and impactful job...that of being a father. Your influence is one that effects your child’s earthly life greatly. It may also have an eternal impact on the lives of your children and grandchildren.

Choose and live each day carefully, in the light of eternity.

1 comment:

David Michael said...


I am sorry to hear that your dad died when you were 10. Any age is a tough age to lose a father, however, there are some interesting things about the age of 10.

Dr. Morris Massey bases his work on how many significant perceptions of the world are shaped when we are 10 (

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